You’re walking down the High Street when completely out of the blue something catches your eye and immediately you feel the grip of grief tightening.
It’s like a volcano in your chest; welling up towards your throat and any minute now it’s going to erupt through your eyes.
What do you do?
- Do you use every ounce of your willpower to push everything back down? You absolutely DO NOT want to feel anything, you believe that time is a healer so if you do this for long enough, you’ll be fine.
- Let the volcano erupt, there and then in public? Or
- Push the feelings down temporarily, knowing that you’ll feel everything later, once you have a safe space to do so?
So what do YOU do?
Out of these three, what do YOU do?
You can’t push it down forever
If you’re like me you’ll push everything you don’t want to feel back down. Firmly and tightly.
This worked well for me for many years. Until it didn’t. [Read more…]