I’ve listed below a range of books about childlessness and moving on that I’ve found helpful.
The two books I recommend most often to clients (and wish I’d written myself 🙂 ) are Lisa’s book ‘Life Without baby: Surviving and Thriving When Motherhood Doesn’t Happen, and Tracey’s ‘The Next Happy: Let Go of the Life You Planned and Find a New Way Forward. You can read more about them and others below.
Lisa Manterfield has collated her her vast experience of running workshops and writing ebooks into Life Without Baby: Surviving and Thriving When Motherhood Doesn’t Happen (Amazon US Link) On the back it says that it ‘offers a combination of hard-won lessons, gentle queries, and real world suggestions.’ I agree completely that Lisa is a ‘comforting and supportive companion who will guide you gently down your own path to making peace with being childfree-not-by-choice and thriving in a new happily ever after. Here’s my Amazon review.
The incentive for Tracey Cleantis’ to write The Next Happy: Let Go of the Life You Planned and Find a New Way Forward (Amazon US Link) was coming to terms with her own childlessness. Here’s my Amazon review
I interviewed Tracey about the book and you can watch us here.
Pamela Jeanne Tsigdinos’ book ‘Silent Sorority (a barren women gets lost, angry, busy and found), ‘reveals with candor, humor and poignancy the intense and at times absurd experience of adjusting to a life as a “non-mom” when nature and science don’t cooperate in the family building department. Outside of the physical reckoning there lies the challenge of moving forward in a society that doesn’t know how to handle the awkwardness of infertility. With no Emily Post-like guidelines for supporting couples who can’t conceive, most well-intentioned “fertile” people miss the mark. ‘ It’s available HERE
Pamela has also written Finally Heard: A Silent Sorority Finds it’s Voice and you can read more and listen to my interview with Pamela here.
Lisa Manterfield’s book I’m taking my eggs and going home:How One Woman Dared to Say No to Motherhood is described as ‘In this gritty, award-winning memoir, Manterfield traces her spiraling route from rational 21st century woman to desperate mama-wannabe. She examines the siren song of motherhood, the insidious lure of the fertility industry, and the repercussions of being childless in a mom-centric society. But this isn’t just another infertility story with another miracle baby ending, nor is it a sad introspective of a childless woman; this is a story about love, desire, and choices—and ultimately about hope. It is the story of a woman who escapes her addiction, not with a baby, but with her sanity, her marriage, and her sense-of-self intact. You can find it HERE.
The intro for Jessica Hepburn’s book The Pursuit of Motherhood‘ says… ‘If you’ve ever felt a crumpling in your chest when another friend tells you they’re pregnant… If you’ve ever wondered why everyone else seems to find it so easy…If you’ve ever experienced the pursuit of motherhood…This book is for you’. You can read about the book HERE.
This is what I think of Justine Brooks Froelker’s book Ever Upward
Jody Day’s book ‘Living the Life Unexpected: 12 Weeks to Your Plan B for a Meaningful and Fulfilling Future Without Children‘ gives you a 12 week programme to create a meaningful life. You can read more about it and the reviews here.
You can read about other books that have helped me here.
This page is a work in progress, I’ll be adding more and please contact me if there are any books you would like to see on this page.