You’re here because you’re ready to move forward with your life and you don’t know how.
You think you want to put the past behind you, maybe even draw a line in the sand but it feels risky and you keep asking yourself ‘what if…?’
And, let’s be honest, you’re worried about changing because carrying grief (ie sadness, anger, envy, shame or fear) has become the norm and even, dare I say, comfortable.
You’ve heard that time is a healer; you’ve read lots of books, and nothing has changed except that time has passed.
I believe this journey of ours is similar to the transformation that a caterpillar goes through to become a beautiful butterfly.
I imagined that motherhood would be that transformation. But when it didn’t happen, I felt like I was stuck in a cocoon not knowing what sort of butterfly I wanted to be and I’d forgotten the instructions.
I spent 10 years in a cocoon, stuck in the dark, hiding from the world. It was lonely, not where I was meant to be and certainly not where I wanted to be. I learned that time on its own doesn’t heal grief. I learned that taking action and working with someone who’s been where you are and knows the way out makes all the difference.
And now I’ve trained in NLP and Time Line techniques. I’ve gained other skills, training, research AND experience of working with other women like you, all of which I combine in this unique, bespoke Let Go and Move On Programme.
Working together on this programme I can help you discover what sort of beautiful butterfly you really are then gently unfurl your wings and learn to fly.
So imagine instead, you have become the beautiful butterfly that’s hidden inside and you:
• are comfortable in your own skin,
• are happy to speak about your life should you wish to do so,
• have the courage to be authentically you and embrace your life as it is today,
• and best of all, you have healed the past and are ready to find fulfilment.
How relieved and excited will you feel, knowing that you have the confidence that comes from permanently leaving the pain behind and you’re now ready for the future?
And imagine doing this with someone who was stuck in that dark place, has learned the tools to transform into who she really is and is flying confidently as herself and who is uniquely positioned and qualified to help you do the same
If that sounds exciting then this is exactly what you’ve been waiting for.
Here’s what Rose a satisfied client said about the programme ‘Before starting the programme I felt stuck, lost and unsure of the future and very apprehensive and hesitant about moving on. I also felt under great pressure to do something ‘amazing’ with my life since I couldn’t be a mother. I wanted support to move on and to find my way out of feeling that childlessness was defining me. So I was hoping to learn new ways of looking at the situation and to find another way ‘to be’. And now I have gone back to my old self! I have found ‘me’ again and am finally feeling comfortable in my own skin! My relationship with my husband has also improved as I can finally talk about other things – and I appreciate him much more than I ever have. I enjoyed writing about my life and my story. It helped me to reflect, or more importantly, accept my life, and all the ups and downs in it. I enjoyed talking to someone who has come out the other end and has been totally honest about her experience – I valued you as a role-model. I thought – if she can do it, so can I!
Your advice to ‘keep an open mind and be patient’ has worked the best for me and I now realise that motherhood isn’t the only way to happiness. It’s all around me, it comes from within and I get a buzz from the things in my life that have been right under my nose this whole time – husband, friends, family and freedom. I also wanted motherhood to give me fulfilment in life. Now, I know that it can come from the choices I make and from the things that are important to me.The programme has made me realise that I can move on, that I can accept that the sadness of not having children is just one part of my life and it won’t stop me from having fun! There are many, many more things that I can do because I don’t have children – I appreciate these all the more now. It has given me perspective too – I think every way of life has its compensation, everyone has their ups and downs, with or without children. I am no different to anyone else – I just have more freedom!
I would recommend the programme to anyone else – male or female – who has found it difficult to come to terms with childlessness.’
Tell me more about the Programme
- We’ll start by exploring and articulating what you’re letting go of; we’ll talk about grief and how you will mark the ending of your dreams of motherhood.
- Then you will heal the sadness and grief permanently (find out more about how that works HERE.
- Now that you’ve put the past behind you, you will start to explore who you really are, and in the process you’ll change those negative habits and behaviours for something that supports you and in the process build your confidence and self-esteem.
- The transformation may take a little time. After all, a butterfly doesn’t appear straight away, there’s a lot of work that goes on when it’s in the cocoon.
I’ve used those changes to create meaning in my life and you can too.
And at the end of the Let Go and Move On Programme you will be able to say:
This is me, this is who I am now and this is what’s important to me.
You might say that on a vision board, in a journal, some other way that’s creative, or you might complete the document which I’ll give you in your final session. However you do it, you will have something concrete to remind you of who you are now.
You will know that the greater risk was staying in the cocoon and you will be happy to embrace how you feel, what you believe and who you are.
This unique programme is designed specifically for childless women using NLP and Time Line techniques and this powerful combination will enable you to make deep and lasting change quickly and easily.
What you will get
This is a personal, bespoke programme so you will get exactly what you want and we can explore the areas YOU want to explore.
You will have regular dedicated time and space to focus on you in a safe and confidential environment, with someone who has first-hand experience of what you’re going through, who will actively listen and gently challenge and guide you.
We’ll spend six sessions together, meeting in person or by Skype every two to three weeks: it will be six hours altogether. So that means we can work together wherever you are in the world.
I will give you support and encouragement throughout and I’m available by email, phone or Skype during the week if you would like to ask me anything.
I know you’ve got used to being in the dark, and perhaps it feels familiar, but you know that you can’t stay like this forever and you’ll have to come out sometime.
The Let Go and Move On Programme is an opportunity for you to emerge on your own terms, working with someone who’s been where you are now, to help you discover what kind of butterfly you really want to be.
Don’t take my word for it, here’s what a couple of recent clients had to say:
‘Before we started working together I felt like an outsider and I hoped to restore my self-confidence, slow down and find some feeling of peace and calm. I now feel more self-confident, happier with who I am and what I have, and more peaceful. I liked your very practical approach with lots of ideas, exercises and techniques to help move me on and to unblock certain areas. I liked that you have experience of childlessness – this felt very right. Powerful’. Ruth,
‘Working with Lesley has helped me to become much better at putting my needs and wants first and this has helped my confidence grow and realise I am capable of so much’. Molly
I’m confident that your expectations will be met and you’ll be delighted with the progress you make on the programme and I offer you my personal guarantee.
I want you to feel comfortable investing your time, money and energy wisely so if at the end of our first month together, you’ve attended your sessions and taken action on the steps you committed to and you’re not completely satisfied, then I will give you a 100% refund.
I’m interested, now what?
Just to check – have you had enough of not knowing who you are, wondering when the grief and sadness will come back, finding it hard to deal with events where there are children and generally feeling negative?
And instead are you prepared to put in some time and effort to finally break out of the cocoon and become the beautiful butterfly that’s hidden inside you?
Is it easy? No, after all if it was you would have done it by now, wouldn’t you?
You should be prepared to be challenged and to dig deep. Most importantly you need to be committed to the process and be prepared to do some work in between sessions so you get the most out of our time together.
Will you be changed by the process? Absolutely. And at the end you know who you are now and you will be full of satisfaction and pride at all you have achieved in our time together.
Your investment is £165 per month for 3 months (£495 in total) for six sessions by Skype, see FAQs for more information.
So what shall I do next?
I know you have some questions and you’ll want to speak to me before making a commitment. And I wouldn’t expect you to be sure until we’ve had a private chat.
So if you think this might be the programme for you, you’ll want to speak to me before making a commitment so please email me at info(at)LesleyPyne(dot)co(dot)uk to book a completely FREE no obligation twenty to thirty minute phone or Skype session.
You can ask any questions you want so that you can decide if this is the best support for you. The hard sell is not my style, and even if you decide not to go ahead I know you’ll gain something positive from our conversation.
There’s no obligation, so why not take the first step in discovering what type of beautiful butterfly you can be?
Still not sure?
Remember the last time you pampered yourself; maybe it was a weekend away, a new outfit or a day at the spa with friends? You really enjoyed it at the time, especially how relaxed and refreshed you felt. Then after a few hours or days, all the stresses came back, especially those negative feelings that just won’t go away.
So instead how about investing £165 per month (£495 in total) for three months to banish those negative feelings, to have more self-confidence, purpose and direction, and to become the real you?
And the beauty of this programme is that you will learn tools and techniques that will be with you forever and you will be able to use in all areas of your life.
Wouldn’t that be the best investment in yourself you’ve ever made?
There’s no commitment so why not go ahead and email me to me, (info(at)LesleyPyne(dot)co(dot)uk).
And if you still have doubts, here’s the text of an email I received from a client, six months after she’s finished the programme. ‘I’ve come a long way since last year! I’m emailing to say thanks. Your method definitely works and it really helped me to get where I am now. Looking into the future while remembering my values has been a good thing for me – I finally feel contented. Being back to work after the summer means that stress will set in and upset this every now and again, but I know how to get here now, by doing the things I love and taking time with the people I love – including myself! I’m just so happy in my own skin!’
My promises to you
Many childless women I’ve spoken to tell me how hard it is to find someone who understands what it’s like to be in their shoes.
I know because I’ve struggled with the same feelings that you have and I now live a positive and fulfilling life. And because of this, when we work together I can give you specific examples of how these techniques have changed my life.
Confidentiality, support and honesty
- I have some powerful techniques at my disposal; some of the time I’ll use them so our session may feel structured, at others it will seem like we’re having a conversation. I believe that you already have all the answers within you so my job is to bring the real you out into the world.
- I will be there for you and support you through the process, working only in your best interests, I will actively listen and gently challenge and guide you.
- I will provide you with unconditional support and belief that you can and will lead a life that you love.
- I will provide you with regular dedicated time and space to focus on you in a safe and confidential environment where you can share what you’ve never shared with anyone else.
No Risk Guarantee
I’m confident you’ll have a transformative experience as a result of our time together. I also understand that you want to be sure that you’ll get what you want from our sessions. In order to ease your mind, if you fully participate and you don’t see significant benefits, give me a call and you’ll get your money back.