Love life and strive for happiness is Liz’ six word memoir and, having read her inspirational story it describes her perfectly. Discovering, at 24 that she’d already gone through the menopause must have been, as she says ‘devastating’ and with the support of a loving husband, family and friends she is now generally happy with her life.
Her loving life and striving for happiness includes having her own business and being a significant adult to many children. Neither of which she believes would have happened, had she become a mother.
Community is also important to Liz, and, having met her a couple of times through MtL I agree that she is as happy as she says she is.
Over to Liz,
1. Where are you on your journey now?
I am 48 and live with my husband in our lovely home in a gorgeous village in Yorkshire. It is almost 8 years since our last IVF attempt and the start of the long process of coming to terms with the fact that we would never be parents. I think I can safely say that I am now in a more positive place, both physically and mentally, and generally feel happy with my life.
2. What’s your story?
As far back as I can remember, I have always wanted to be a mum and always told people that was what I wanted to be when I grew up. I was devastated when, at 24, I was told that I had gone through the menopause following years of uncertainty and tests. It completely changed my life and for many years I struggled with relationships and coming to terms with my diagnosis. As a children’s nurse, I spent a lot of time with children and, in retrospect, this helped me but equally reminded me of what I couldn’t have.
Over the years, I have become an Auntie, a Godmother and a significant adult to many children, for which I’m very grateful. It has been a hard journey, and one which I could not have made without the love and support of my wonderful parents, family and friends who have all helped and listened to me over the years.
When Steve and I decided to get married, during our year travelling through Central and South America, we also decided that we would try to have a baby through IVF and egg donation. On our return to England, another journey started, which seemed to take over. Sadly, it wasn’t successful.
However, a few years on, I’m delighted to say that Steve and I are very happy and enjoy ourselves, despite being childless, and we have discovered many things to fill our lives. We have also made some amazing friends through More To Life. [Read more…]