You can spend your life being busy. But if deep down you don’t believe you will succeed, chances are you won’t. If, however you believe in yourself, then you are more likely to be successful. People who have achieved excellence have beliefs that support them and you have read about many of those beliefs over the past few weeks.
If you’re not yet sure how much you want change your beliefs for the better, ask yourself:
- Which one of these beliefs would make the biggest positive difference to my life if I believed it?
- How much more likely am I to achieve my goals with these positive beliefs?
- What difference would these beliefs make to my relationships, both at home and at work?
If you’ve been following my series then I know you’ll have tried new ways of interacting with others and you’ll already have had some success. I’m going to finish this series of articles (and the year) with some additional ways that you can really integrate these great beliefs into your daily life.
In summary the beliefs are:
- The “map” is not the “territory”
- People respond to their map of the world / perception of reality
- There is no failure, only feedback / there is only learning.
- Behind every behaviour is a positive intention.
- Have respect for the other person’s model of the world/point of view
- People respond to what they think you’ve said, not what you’ve said
- There is a solution to every problem.
- I have within me all the resources I will ever need
- Integrating new beliefs into your life
1. Try it on for size.
Imagine a new item of clothing. Maybe it looks fantastic on a hanger and you can imagine how good you will look wearing it. But until you actually try it on you won’t actually know how it looks and feels, whether it matches other clothes you have, and whether both you and others think that it suits you.
Beliefs are like this, by pre-supposing they are true you can try them for a while, get to know whether they work for you and fit with your other beliefs. If they work, they will become a belief and if not you can take them off and put them back on the hanger.
2. Belief Cards.
One way to remember to use these beliefs is to write them individually on to cards. I have these on my desk and a turn over a different one each day. I then focus on that one specifically when I have a problem or difficult situation.
3. Stepping into a belief
Another way is to
- Think of a problem or situation where you are not getting what you want and write the problem on a piece of paper.
- Choose a belief card which you think may help you to find a solution.
- Stand up and lay both the paper and card on the floor in front of you.
- Step on to your problem; notice your posture, facial expression and breathing.
- Now step to the new belief card, taking it on board. Notice how your physiology changes now that you belief this. Really associate into the new belief.
- When you are ready, retaining the same physiology step back on to the paper. Notice how differently you think about the old problem now that you have this new belief.
If you want more insights you can do this by stepping on each of the different cards until you have lots of different learnings.
Here are just 3 different ways of integrating new beliefs into your life. I’m sure you can think of others.
I wish you a positive and happy Christmas and New Year.
Thanks for reading.
Thank you to Sue Knight (NLP at Work) and Jeremy Lazarus (Successful NLP) for inspiration.