Three years ago last weekend this website went live and I started to stand up and be counted as a childless woman. Three years feels like a big milestone and I thought I should write something special to celebrate it.
In the past few days I’ve spent a long time sitting in front of my computer looking for inspiration.
I pondered writing about the highs and lows,
I wondered about sharing how the Inspirational Stories have changed those who’ve written them as well as you, the reader.
I thought about writing that, because I take my own development seriously I’ve learned and changed so much in that time that I can hardly recognise myself. And of course how I work with clients has changed too.
I started writing many times, but inspiration wasn’t to be found.
Then I read a post from Melissa, who writes as the Stirrup Queen. She writes about how we shouldn’t let childlessness define us, that we have A Life and she encourages us to ask ourselves these four questions:
- Am I doing things that make me happy?
- Am I spending time with people who make me happy?
- Am I living the life I want to be living vs. the one I think looks good to the outside world?
- Have I followed my bliss, or am I living someone else’s expectations?
And if not, why. Why am I waiting?
Really, why am I waiting? Because this is it. This is the only life I’m going to get, and I can either live it apologizing for my likes and dislikes, my interests and wants, my grief and upsets, or I can take the whole of it, even if it’s messy and hard to hold, and throw myself into the things that spark my interest.